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带着爱意说再见

和2009说再见, 又从吴淡如博客那里抽出了这一章:

带着爱意说再见

「怎么样,最近好吗?」淑茗接起了电话,声音清脆悦耳。

「噢,情人节快乐!我都忘了今天是我生日呢。」

「好好保重自己噢。别太累了。」

挂掉电话后,她对我笑笑说:「喏,我前前男友。在一起时,他从来不主动记得我生日的,分手后,倒是会打电话来祝我情人节快乐,生日快乐,新年快乐。好像有点讽刺呢。」

前男友还会打来祝生日快乐的不多。

男人的细心与窝心常在追求期就用完了,能留到分手后的算珍禽异兽。

她才喝了两口咖啡,又接了另一通情人节快乐的电话。这回,是她的前男友。

「现任男友呢?」

「他今天很忙,我会用简讯祝他快乐,恭喜他:就因为多年前的今天我诞生,他才有我这么一个贴心女友,并提醒他别忘记带给我一个小礼物。」淑茗说。

乐观开朗的淑茗说她和几位前男友,在分手后都可以当朋友,是因她总是带着爱意说再见。

带着爱意说再见,听起来还挺诗意。不过,做起来并不容易。

如果是其中一方劈腿,或因种种龃龉而分手,认为自己被抛弃的那一方总是会记恨的。

淑茗有她一套想法。分手时当然也都发生过不甜蜜的争执,但是在度过分手的冷静期后,她会主动和对方连系,画上一个完美句点:表示两人相处了那么久,虽然没 有了爱情,但她还希望有纯粹的友谊。「让我们把不愉快的事都删除掉吧,只剩下美好记忆。老的时候还记得曾经有人爱过你,那是我们真实拥有过的东西。我不希 望变成你的仇人,只希望变成一个祝福你的人。」

这种话不是每个人都说得出来的。

不少谈过恋爱的人都发现,恋爱的最大的功效,常是把情人都变成仇人,不少人还继续说他坏话,批斗他过去种种劣行。

尤其是女人,常有这样的习性:恋爱谈得越多次,仇人或不愿见的人越多。

一回忆起来,所有没成功的恋爱都充满灰灰烂烂的回忆。只要没结果,就全打零分,没有任何小片段值得记忆,多么可惜。

如果能不管谁欠谁,谁是谁非,如能带着爱意说再见,爱情走了,友谊仍温馨。

当然,这也不是放诸四海皆准:和你分手的人,理性一定要大于疯狂,否则,当朋友等于继续找麻烦。

from here

金玉良言

In the car on the way to dinner, my parents expounded on their opinion that getting married is far preferable to cohabiting, especially for us girls, so we are not at the losing end. How? Because if we cohabit and break up, we get nothing; whereas if we marry and divorce, we can get alimony.

Well I pointed out that if I earned more than my (future! haha) husband, then I might end up paying him alimony instead. To which my parents suggested that I transfer all my assets to them. And you think any future husband of mine couldn’t think of that either?

Why must it all be about money, that’s just SO unromantic.

更上一层楼

This holiday, I barely bought myself anything, other than the necessary food and toiletries.

In fact the only frivolous things I bought were Kanebo cream foundation from the Kanebo warehouse sale; it was discounted from $98 to $20 (cos I’d used up my previous foundation) and a black top from Topshop (but technically I didn’t spend any money cos I’d used the Topshop voucher I’d gotten eons ago).

I still enjoy window shopping, and I still see lots of stuff I’d really love to have, but I don’t have the urge to buy them all. Goodness knows why.

Maybe it’s because I’ve just scaled one more level in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. :P

breakfast at lunch

Zhiqi treated me to lunch at Cedele in Ngee Ann City on 21 December.

Yes I was very surprised when we turned a corner and I saw that Delifrance had been replaced by Cedele. Like when did that happen???!!!

Love the decor of the place, very woody and homely. I am also a sucker for pretty light fixtures. :P

We both ordered Breakfast All Day sets:

ZQ’s Caramelized Banana Whole-meal Pancakes:

And my Bubble & Squeak (how cute is that?):

Thanks Zhiqi!!! :)

merry christmas!

I don’t celebrate Christmas, but I sorta celebrated Christmas Eve yesterday.

Went ring shopping with Grand Dotter, who gravitates towards wedding rings, or rings that look like wedding rings. :D

After that we went to Ippudo at Mandarin Gallery. Mandarin Gallery looks all glammed up now after extensive renovations, but I do miss its dark dingy corridors of yore (though the shops have always been posh).

We shared a long table with various strangers. Love the gigantic chandelier and bowls stuck onto one whole wall.

My shiromaru ramen:

Grand Dotter’s akamaru ramen:

I think Grand Dotter’s ramen was nicer than mine, 因为她的面口味比较重。

Portions were a little tiny, but after you’ve finished eating you feel the noodles fill you up.

After that we went to Fruit Paradise at Orchard Central (which was pretty deserted as compared to 313@Somerset) for dessert.

I had chocolate banana tart (oh the irony! I don’t really like banana; gave all the bits of banana to Grand Dotter) and GD had strawberry Mont Blanc (and I stole one piece of strawberry). The tarts weren’t very sweet, in fact they weren’t sweet enough for me.

We also ordered a pot of Peach Nectar, which had bits of peach mixed with the leaves. They covered the teapot with a checked print tea cosy, how cute is that?!

After that we rushed down to the Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Succour in Bedok for Mass. It’s the largest and oldest Catholic church in the east. Carolling was starting at 8.30 pm and we thought we were going to be late, but the MRT and bus was surprisingly fast and we reached the church at 8.15. Everyone else was early and the hall was bursting at its seams. We managed to get seats in a pew at the back. Many babies in arms and quite a few cute guys of all ages. Haha.

The carolling was exactly how anyone would imagine it (high-pitched and echoic) and lasted for half an hour.

After that this priest recited odd passages from I-dunno-where (probably the Bible). This was interspersed with singing, and during one song everyone suddenly fell to their knees, to our great surprise. Completely confusing.

Then they had a procession of people carrying some trophy-like sceptres to the stage, and we could smell incense. They made a melodious bell tinkle at the parts they wanted to emphasize. It was exactly like the film version of The Tempest I watched – a bell would tinkle before Ariel appeared.

Everything the priest said was projected onto screens around the hall. The congregation would be directed to make the appropriate response (also projected on the screens) after the priest said something. Like acting like that.

Then they came round with donation bags tied to long sticks, and we both donated a bit. After that people were directed to wish each other peace and everyone started hugging those next to them. We were a bit taken aback by this display of exuberance. And we just stood there, haha. Well the Indian guy next to me said ‘peace be with you’ haha so nice of him!

Then each pew went up to receive communion, and we made our getaway during the confusion.

When I got home, this was waiting for me:

Some turkey breast, veggies and mash! For supper!!! :D

an early christmas present

I emailed Dr Wang sometime ago to ask if my fliers had brought in any subjects for her, and she recently replied:

You did a great job, I did get some responses.

Yayyy!!! :D

maybe rudolf has allergic rhinitis

That was what KN’s subnick was sometime ago.

Snippet of our conversation on Dec 13:

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
or maybe he squeezed his blackheads

in anticipation of yuletide joy..  said:
what?

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
rudolf

in anticipation of yuletide joy..  said:
ahah

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
look at your subnick, dear

in anticipation of yuletide joy..  said:
ic

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
i wonder how reindeer blackheads look like

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
maybe biore porepatch doesnt work either

in anticipation of yuletide joy.. said:
what a qn

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
indeed!

in anticipation of yuletide joy.. said:
think theydont care about pores

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
the female ones do

~ * j u n * ~ [ the princess of peach blossom island ] said:
HAHAHHAHAAHAAAA

a royal time

Went to Pamela’s house for lunch on Sunday.  Pottered around in the kitchen awaiting Koh Ni’s arrival. Actually I think the only thing I did was to vaguely cube Pamela’s deformed hard boiled eggs.

When KN arrived sometime after 2, it was finally lunchtime!!! YAY!!!

KN presiding demurely over the proceedings:

The lunch menu:

- salad (lettuce, capsicum and bits of boiled egg, with low-fat Miracle Whip which I quite liked)
– tomyam soup with chicken and prawns
– wasabi tuna potato croquettes
– flavoured Japanese rice with bamboo shoots
– KN’s mocktail (sparkling grape juice, cranberry juice and pineapple cubes mixed together)

I loved the croquettes argh I’m a sucker for anything potato-related……!!!

First we watched The Cat Returns, which I found a little too short. KN’s right, once you watch Spirited Away, all of Hayao Miyazaki’s works simply pale in comparison. :P

Then we watched Spring Snow, which was a Japanese period movie about the forbidden love between this 斯文败类 from a nouveau riche family and a girl from a declining aristocratic one. The ending was so tragic that both KN and I protested vehemently (probably to Pamela’s great amusement). I only like happy movies, real life is bad enough!!!

After that, tea time!

My Victorian sponge cake made its debut! Nice!!!

We also had homemade red rubies dessert – well they were supposed to be green emeralds instead, but most of the green colouring I’d brought had leaked out of the plastic container, so the resulting jewels were a really faint green. :P

After that we practised tying obis in various ways, and photographed them for posterity.

victorian sponge cake

Hadn’t baked for eons until last weekend, when I made this:

A Victorian sponge cake!

I made a sponge cake and my dad helped me slice it in half. I filled it with Smuckers strawberry jam and whipped cream, and dusted it with icing sugar.

男友养着前女友的狗

I love reading Wu Danru’s blog:

男友养着前女友的狗

有位朋友是某动物之家的负责人,最近协会又需金孔急,一一打电话跟朋友们募款,我问他:「为什么不透过媒体,也许会有更多人愿意捐钱出来?」

他说:「话是这么说没错,但上次有位热心的记者帮我做了报导之后,问题就来了───募集的款项很有限就算了,我们的地址一被公布,第二天门口又多了五只狗…」

想要丢弃宠物的人,反而因此找到了一个门道,送到动物之家,饲主或多或少安慰了自己的良心。

有时,人的「良心」实在令人惊讶。

几年前,我曾经很热心的将被弃养的波斯猫,转送给其他想要养猫的人。我一直以为自己做了好事。某日,在一个场合遇到了一位空姐,她向前自我介绍说:「嘿, 我是你朋友某某的朋友,去年有只猫托妳把牠送走了,真是谢谢。那只猫是我跟前男友养的,很不乖,让我很头痛,后来我换了一只小猫,乖多了,谢谢妳…」

我听了差点没昏倒,真想说,妳怎么可以利用别人的慈悲来换宠物呢?

金融风暴刮得惨烈,在台南的某个动物之家,这两个月收到的弃犬就有七百多只,而一些私人农场、美容院、兽医院也常被人当成放生的场所。弃养的人各有各的理 由,有连自己也养不活,有赴外地工作,有饲养空间不够大的,养牠之前,可都没好好想过。当初花大钱捧回家,一旦不想要了,宠物就被当成破拖鞋一般丢弃。

动物比人可怜,一旦被弃养,运气不好就会流落街头,或魂归西天。

说也凄凉,宠物是最不势利眼的,从来不会因为主人有钱没钱,就对他改变态度,主人有钱时和没钱时,对宠物的态度却不一样。

宠物最怕的两种风暴,一是主人失业,二是主人失恋。

我曾经说过,最怕情侣一认识就开始想要养一只小动物,当时浓情蜜意,抱着一只小猫小狗,自称爹地和妈咪,一旦失恋了,就疏忽了宠物,有放生的,有饿死的,眼睛都不眨一下。

不久前有个女孩跟我说,她新交往的男友,还养着与前女友一起收养的黄金猎犬,人狗之间感情好到让她吃味。「这是不是表示他还怀念着前女友?」

我拍拍她的肩膀,说,妳是幸运儿,这个男人,不因失恋而嫁祸宠物,个性必然成熟,也一定有情有义。

from here

blessing in disguise

My short sojourn in the working world is over:

the holidays have begun.

wedding dinner

Attended my cousin’s wedding at Regent Hotel on the night of December 3…… yes one day before my ID exam…… so I brought some notes and read them whenever I was free. :P

First was the tea ceremony……

Followed by the customary round of phototaking……

Then off to the reception!

The amazing cupcake tower (the cupcakes were made by the bride’s friends)……

I spied on aunties eating cupcakes……

Soft drinks and wasabi chips…… I like the photo below!

There was live music!!!

Finally we were allowed into the ballroom……

but it was quite some time before they served dinner…… :S

And the very happy couple!


freedom at last!

Fifth and last exam this morning! Interactional Discourse! Finally!!!

The texts tested were interesting enough: a classroom situation, a casual conversation and a scene from Dead Poets’ Society. Interestingly, someone in the casual conversation said that Budapest consists of two towns on either side of some river, one was called Buda, the other, Pest!!! That sounded a little too amazing so……

Lunch with some of the IDers, before I popped over to the library to print out fliers for Dr Wang’s research project. Also remembered to google the Budapest thing – to my immense surprise it was TRUE!

Then after that hopped on and off various buses, sticking the fliers at various bus stops around NUS. Took eons to do that.

Met Meryl and Xuanyu at the Engin bus stop and we bussed down to Mo’s place together (I stuck a flier at the Kent Vale stop too, lol). The three of us and Jia Jie were the first to arrive!!!

Mo was halfway ordering the pizza when the others came bearing packs of alcohol. He brought out the cucumber sticks (which were really nice even when eaten plain) and two dips (one tasted like otah and the other was a salty version of peanut butter – well Mo said he did use peanut butter).

Then suddenly a couple of people clamoured for icecream so they went to Mo’s fridge and started bringing out tubs and tubs of Haagen Daaz and Ben & Jerry’s!!! Whoa. Mo also got out a bowl of fruit. I had a bit of everything and even ate some with the peanut butter dip haha! Hey salty sweet and cold is actually quite a nice combi okay!!! Haha. And a couple of us actually finished a tub or so.

Then the pizza came and we had the requisite phototaking with the pizzas before tucking in. Mo eats pizzas rather curiously.

After dinner, those who were still around had nothing to do so I suggested watching Matrix!!! Mo was amazed that there were actually some of us who hadn’t seen it yet, including me. So we gathered around the TV and watched it. Haha stupid Xuanyu went BOO! and gave us all a shock during the movie. And when the phone rang in the movie, and Mo’s phone rang too, giving us another shock haha. The movie was  great – even if you didn’t care about the philosophical side, it made for a quite a good action movie.

By the end of the movie, only Meryl, Xuanyu and I were left. We helped Mo clear up and I got to take all the leftover non-vegetarian pizza home (a whole boxful)! Before we left Mo’s block I pinned yet another flier to the notice board near the lift lobby.

Yay free at last!!!

katsaridaphobia

Fourth exam, Systemic Functional Grammar, this morning.

Wignell was in his element; telling us (we took the exam with a ton of geog people), ‘This is not a drill, I repeat, this is not a drill,’ just to get our attention and saying generally humorous stuff after that.

The passages tested were about the fear of cockroaches: the first was about someone’s scary experience with one, and the other was about treatment for those who were scared of them.

And no the exam wasn’t hard – just really tedious to analyze every word in each clause textually, interpersonally and ideationally, followed with an analysis of both texts. Horrifying. By the last 15 minutes of the exam, my handwriting had gone to the dogs, cats and mice.

And although I think this is the probably most useless EL module ever, I had lots of fun, and I’m sure most of us did too. Will definitely miss analyzing ridiculous passages, clicking away on that ridiculous computer programme, crapping with Wignell (he actually enjoyed Little Nyonya!) and even his pirate-y gold hoop earring! Good times.

Four down, one more to go!

graphology

A week of studying before my third exam, Research Workshop, this morning.

MPSH 6 was absolutesuperfreezingly cold. And I was sitting in the blast of one of the aircon vents. And the 11 of us were completely dwarfed by those taking EL 1101E.

Was a bit surprised to see that the questions weren’t that hard – well except for the first one, which was a logic question masquerading as a syntax one.

The instructions said to allocate enough time to think about the questions before answering. So I spent more than half an hour on each one. This is probably the second EL exam where I had plenty of time (the first one being Language in Contact last sem).

Three down, two more to go!


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